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and Disarming the Narcissist

Since it’s first publication in 2008, Disarming the Narcissist has become to go-to guide for self-help readers and assigned to clients by therapists seeking to escape the influence and abuse of people with narcissistic personality disorder.

The second edition released in 2013 elevated this already essential tool to the level of self-help classic as it becamse available in over 13 languages, including an audiobook reading. Countless people around the world learned from Wendy’s tips, techniques, and teachings to cope and confront the narcissist in their life.

Based on reader and therapist feedback, this fully-revised third edition of Disarming the Narcissist expands on previous learnings to offer new insight to help break free of the traps and pitfalls narcissists set for those around them.

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Magazine Interviews

Narcissists Are Lonely Little Creatures – thecut.com

Sep 28, 2016 |

Everybody knows a Trumply personality: a blowhard, a conversational demagogue, a constant, forceful center of attention. But, as Behary warned me over the phone yesterday, if you want to defend yourself from the narcissist at work, or at Christmas, you need to grasp...

6 Signs You Were Raised By A Narcissist – huffpost.com

Oct 12, 2015 | ,

Researchers estimate that less than one percent of the general population has evidence of “full-blown” NPD, but anywhere from two to 16 percent of people who seek therapy have the disorder. That’s usually because the loved ones in their lives have demanded they seek...

Radio and TV Interviews and Podcasts

Disarming the Narcissist at Work

Jun 17, 2022 |

Dr. Laura — June 2022 YouTube: https://susanstiffelman.com/encore-episodes-co-parenting-with-a-narcisssist/ Apple Podcasts: https://susanstiffelman.com/encore-episodes-co-parenting-with-a-narcisssist/

LOVE FIX Podcasts

Mar 21, 2022 |

The Love Fix Podcast: Confronting and Disarming a Narcissist - April 2022 https://open.spotify.com/episode/4vcxK7VB2Kvow0tDd4ZJXw?si=7dqkCMxjQgWvAxzsg7X9aw&nd=1

specializing in narcissism and high-conflict couples therapy

Wendy Behary

Wendy Behary is the founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 30 years.

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Raves & Reviews

For Wendy Behary and Disarming the Narcissist

Judith Beck

“If there is a narcissist in your life, I highly recommend this book! This valuable book offers great insight and concrete suggestions for changing your thinking and responses so you can interact with narcissists more effectively, whether you’re a family member, intimate, friend, coworker, or therapist.”

—Judith Beck, PhD, president of the nonprofit Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and author of Cognitive Behavior Therapy

John M. Gottman

“Disarming the Narcissist in its new edition continues to be a useful guide for anyone doing therapy with a narcissist, or even for those in a relationship with such a person. The book is an essential guide for this widespread problem.”

—John M. Gottman, PhD, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Randi Kreger

“In this new edition, Wendy shows you why you feel so lonely and misunderstood in these relationships, and why you keep your own needs tucked away. The insights Wendy Behary provides make this an essential book for anyone in a relationship with a narcissist.”

—Randi Kreger, coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells, and author of Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents

Craig Malkin

“In its third edition, the deeply insightful Disarming the Narcissist is a classic with good reason: it offers survivors of narcissism helpful guidance and protection while never dehumanizing anyone. In that way, it continues to stand out in the now-crowded field of books addressing narcissism.”

—Craig Malkin, PhD, lecturer at Harvard Medical School, and author of Rethinking Narcissism

Karyl McBride

“Using the approach of understanding the psychological makeup of the disorder, Behary accomplishes what seems like an impossible task; strategies to help the reader understand and communicate better with a narcissist are here!”

—Karyl McBride, PhD, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough?, Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, and Will I Ever Be Free of You?

Susan Stiffelman

“In this third edition, Wendy also addresses the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist. She beautifully illustrates the power of empathic confrontation—a tool for enhancing a sturdy core self, and cultivating a reliable and effective advocate for our children amid the inevitable power struggles.”

—Susan Stiffelman, author of Parenting Without Power Struggles, and cohost—with Wendy Behary—of the Co-Parenting with a Narcissist online community

Jill Manning

“This latest edition provides up-to-date and practical guidance for not only understanding the problem of narcissism. This book will be a stabilizing and highly recommended resource for anyone who has ever stood in the confusing wake a narcissist leaves.”

—Jill Manning, PhD, licensed marriage and family therapist, researcher, and author of What’s the Big Deal about Pornography?

Now Available

Disarming the Narcissist

Third Edition

by Wendy T. Behary

Preface by Daniel J. Siegel

Foreword by Jeffrey Young

Published by New Harbinger Publications

AUDIOBOOK (2nd Edition)

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