Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy and accountability, an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in exaggerated, grandiose thinking?
Arm Yourself
Over 1200 positive reviews on Amazon
Now a self-help classic, Disarming the Narcissist is a practical, step-by-step communication guide to help you cope with and confront the narcissist in your life.
Based on reader feedback, this fully revised and updated third edition features new information on narcissistic hypersexuality, shame, infidelity and betrayal trauma; divorcing a narcissist, and co-parenting with a narcissist.
With this how-to guide, you’ll learn how to embrace your rights, reclaim your voice, and effectively confront the challenging moments with the narcissist in your life.
Finally, you’ll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it’s time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
specializing in narcissism and high-conflict couples therapy
Wendy Behary
Wendy Behary is the founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 30 years.
SCHEMA THERAPY
The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC offer consultation, training and supervision to clinicians, interested in learning and/or becoming certified in Schema Therapy. Directors of Training, Wendy Behary and Jeffrey Young offer frequent training seminars, workshops, and supervision groups.
COGNITIVE THERAPY
The Cognitive Therapy Center offers consultation, education, and psychotherapy services to individuals, couples, families, groups, and businesses. Highly experienced therapists offer cognitive-behavioral and/or Schema Therapy for a number of difficult and challenging issues.
Understanding Narcissism
“They seem well-assembled and self-assured, sometimes with a saccharine wit,” says Behary, cautioning that they can also “quickly pull the rug out from under you, reducing you to boredom, tears, apprehension, or disgust without a flinch.”
For Therapists
Schema Therapy Online Community
This online community is a powerful way to stay in touch with other schema therapists around the globe, on a regular basis; to be part of the ever-growing ST community. It is a place to share your ideas and have all of your questions answered, by Wendy and Joan. Whether you are new to ST or an experienced schema therapist we will support your continued learning and help you to stay current on latest developments in ST…from the comfort of your home or office.
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Loving, Leaving, Living With… The Narcissist In Your Life
With Wendy Behary, International Expert on Narcissism and Author of the Best Selling Book, Disarming the Narcissist. This supportive online community is designed for anyone who is currently involved with or still struggling with the leftover residue of being involved with a narcissist. Whether you are trying to effectively engage, trying to leave, or have already ended the relationship and are dealing with the difficult aftermath, or you’re simply not sure what to do… this is for you.
Schema Therapy Training Institute
10 videos, 3 1/2 hours of educational vidoes to improve your practice. This video series is grounded in an understanding, both conceptually and practically, of the essential value of the therapy relationship in schema therapy; not only as a means for creating a safe refuge for connection, empathy, trust, and openness, but also as a context in which schemas and schema modes can become triggered and expeditiously addressed.
Reclaiming Resilience
Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Within our virtual sanctuary dedicated to Betrayal Trauma, we recognize the profound impact that betrayal can have on an individual and their relationships. Our purpose is to cultivate a secure and empathic space, fostering healing, connection, and a sturdy self while navigating the challenges of betrayal.
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Preface by Daniel J. Siegel
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Upcoming Events
The 2024-25 International Training and Certification Program
Offered Online (with an additional/optional 2-Day in-person session) Wendy Behary and Jeff Young, Facilitators Robin Spiro, MSW, LCSW—Planning Coordinator NEW Dates and Times—Reduced Price! Download 2024-25 Program Overview Download 2024-25 Application
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PAST EVENTS
October 8, 2021: The NYC/NJ: International Certification & Training Program in Schema Therapy
Faciliated by: Wendy Behary, Jeff Young, and Supervisors of The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC Four-Days / Part 2 of the 2021 Certification Program:October 8, 9, 11, 12 (excludes Sunday) Click to see details and PDF
April 1, 2022: International Training & Certification Program in Schema Therapy (ITCPST) – Springfield, NJ
Part 1: April 1, 2, 4, and 5th, 2022 Workshops will include a combination of teaching methods, including lectures, handouts, video sessions of master schema therapists, live demonstrations, question-and-answer periods, group discussions, and supervised practice exercises. Part 2: Oct 21, 22, 24, and 25th, 2022: Workshops will include a combination of teaching methods, including lectures, handouts, […]
April 16, 2021: The NYC/NJ: International Certification & Training Program in Schema Therapy
Faciliated by: Wendy Behary, Jeff Young, and Supervisors of The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC Four-Day Weekends:Weekend 1: April 16, 17, 19, 20 (excludes Sunday)Please open PDF for details Click to see details and PDF
October 21, 2022: International Training & Certification Program in Schema Therapy (ITCPST) – Springfield, NJ
Part 1: April 1, 2, 4, and 5th, 2022 Workshops will include a combination of teaching methods, including lectures, handouts, video sessions of master schema therapists, live demonstrations, question-and-answer periods, group discussions, and supervised practice exercises. Part 2: Oct 21, 22, 24, and 25th, 2022: Workshops will include a combination of teaching methods, including lectures, handouts, […]
February 11, 2022: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist—Online Workshop for Clinicians
9:00am – 4:00pm (EST) Click here for information and to register
Narcissistic Abuse and Gaslighting Summit
January 27-28, 2022 Hosted by PESI—An Online Event!Treatment Tools to Break the Bonds of Emotional Manipulation and Reclaim Personal Power Click here to register
May 20, 2022: Navigating Narcissism in the Treatment Room with Schema Therapy
Sponsored by Instituto di Scienze Cognitive SRL Time: from 15:00 to 18:00, Italian time (CET)Language: English (with simultaneous translation into Italian availableRecording: Recordings fully available without limits of time Registration: Click for information and to register
May 6-7, 2022: Navigating Narcissism: An integrated and integral investigation into one of the most complex personalities across the globe
Sponsored by: Instituto di Scienze Cognitive SRL A Two-day Online Event!Time: from 2:00pm to 8:00pm, Italian time (CET)Language: English (with simultaneous translation into Italian availableRecording: Recordings fully available without limits of time Registration: Click for details and to register
The 2023-24 International Training and Certification Program
Offered Online (with an additional/optional 2-Day in-person session) Wendy Behary and Jeff Young, Facilitators NEW Dates and Times—Reduced Price! Download 2023-24 Program Overview Download 2023-24 Application
October/2022: Empathic Confrontation with Some of the Most Challenging Modes in Treatment!
Hosted by: Schema Therapy Training Online Multimodal Learning Platform/Learn at Your Own Pace/18 CPD Hours Information/Registration click here
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Co-Parenting With A Narcissist Membership Community with Susan Stiffelman, MFT and Wendy Behary.
Ongoing support to free you from the pain and frustration of raising children with a highly self-absorbed co-parent.
Does every conversation with your co-parenting partner end in threats and drama?
Do you feel helpless to protect your children from the impact of an angry, arrogant parent?
Does your co-parent behave in ways that leave your children hurt and confused?
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