“This beautifully written guide will help the reader to understand what drives the narcissist, how to identify the various types of narcissists, and, most importantly, how to deal with these difficult people.

Although this is an instructional manual, it is very readable. The author has a way with words, as well as significant experience as a therapist in treating narcissists. It is a “must read” for anyone with a narcissist in his/her life!

Dealing Effectively With Narcissists,
By Carolee Kallmann, Lpc, Carolee Kallmann, MA.

This book could be disappointing if you are looking for an in depth explanation and analysis of narcissism. However, if you are looking for ways to help and protect yourself in relation to a narcissist, this book has a lot to offer.

The author gives a compassionate look at what makes a narcissist, in plain and simple terms without a lot of jargon or technical terms. She also helps the reader understand and identify how and why the narcissist manages to push his/her buttons, and gives simple exercises and suggestions for helping free him/herself from it.

I highly recommend this book for the lay-person who may find him/herself caught in a destructive relationship with the chronically self-absorbed narcissist.

Simple & useful information
By J.J. (USA)

I found this book to be enlightened, instructive and readable. After having read several other “self help” books on narcissism, this book uniquely provides a framework for both understanding the disorder and learning how to deal with it. The prose was masterful, and the methodology which was articulated intriguing. I have hope that this book will improve my ability to understand my own reactions to my narcissistic partner, and aid me in being more effective in dealing with her.

Battlefield Instructional Guide
By Hope Frbetr (California)

One of the few books on the market that actually provides practical insight and techniques for handling encounters with an individual who is narcissistic. Most books focus almost entirely on how awful the narcissist can behave to the point of demonizing what is essentially a archaic defense mechanism learned in childhood. The author spends considerable time on what you, as the non-narcissist, get out of the relationship, how you pick up the other end of the rope, and the importance of understanding your own hot buttons (which narcissist’s are almost supernaturally good at triggering) rather than continuing the status quo by responding with your own defensive patterns that go nowhere but bad. This book is asking a lot of it’s readers; that they understand the concept of schemas and that they grow up emotionally and approach their life, and the narcissist’s they may love or encounter, from a place of strength, knowledge, maturity, and wisdom. If you want another book that outlines how horrible narcissists are and how you are their unwilling victim, you will not appreciate this book. If you are willing or interested to learn about yourself and looking at your own part of the dance, such that through your own growth and modeling the relationship, even with a narcissist, has a chance to improve, then this book is for you. Bravo.

Very worthwhile message for those willing to work hard.
By SmartCookie (Sonoma, CA)

I have over 25 years of full time practice as a therapist and have had extensive training in psychoanalysis, cognitive therapy and schema therapy (the approach upon which this book is based). This book does justice to the full depth and complexity of Narcissism. It does not offer simplistic advice or a quick solution that, like chewing gum, seems great at the start but quickly fades. With warmth, a delightful sense of humor and compassion, this author takes you by the hand and introduces you to the key strategies we have found effective in dealing with, and overcoming, narcissism. This book is clear, practical, and enjoyable to read. It will take time, effort and repeated study to fully grasp all that is offered but I can assure that your effort will be well rewarded since this author has obviously “done her homework” and truly knows. Upon first read, some of the strategies may seem difficult to execute. This is because they are built upon a blending and layering of skills and knowledge involving the heart and the mind. This is what it takes to be effective with narcissism. There is not a quick and easy way. I can assure you that if you are not just going through the motions, they work. Similar to learning to play a musical instrument or a new sport like golf or tennis, what can seem daunting at the start will eventually be in your grasp if you break it into the steps you need and gradually put it all together. Some of us will be a quick study and some of us will benefit from additional “coaching”. The author provides useful links for the latter.

I, as a seasoned therapist, have learned a great deal from this book and find it making a significant difference in my work. I will be returning to it repeatedly myself.

Highly effective and beautifully written
By Dr. George Lockwood

“Disarming the Narcissist” is a real “GPS” (Global Positioning System) for anyone attempting to navigate on the road of life with the challenging narcissist. This well crafted primer integrates complex theories with human, compassionate and practical applications. The author’s way with words is truly masterful.

A masterful Guide,
By Kathleen O. Kobberger

Wendy Behary has deep scientific knowledge of her topic and immense clinical experience. They both come in very handy as she writes this insightful book that is also full of practical advice as to how to cope and survive the self-absorbed (and there are so many of them out there, some in disguise!). Even though she uses a lot of hard scientific information, her book is easy to understand by any reader without specific knowledge on the subject. It is a must read kind of book for all those dealing with a narcissist in their lives, but also for anyone intrigued by the complexity of human nature.

Insightful & Practical, Easy to understand. A Must Read Book!
By Alexandra Spyridaki

This jewel of a book presents us with compassionate insight into a narcissist’s behavior and the plight of those close to him or her. In a clear, step-by-step approach the author lays out a path for developing the self-awareness and strength needed to deal with the narcissist in a constructive manner. I would recommend this book to all, including professionals, who are struggling with such relationships.

A jewel of a book
By M. Miele