How to Talk to a Narcissist
Tip #1: The Show Off
When dealing with the show-off, recognize
that you are in the company of someone who
hungers for the adoration and envy of others...
ignore [their] obvious solicitations and instead
offer positive feedback for the simple and
ordinary niceties of the interaction.
—from Disarming The Narcissist
Often times they are the most charming person in the room, radiating brightness and confidence. It is not hard to understand how narcissist - those exhibiting traits of narcissistic personality disorder - make their way into our lives. We marry them, we accept jobs from them, we invite them to our card games. But eventually the flip side of their personality comes to light. What you once believed was confidence you now recognize as arrogance; and it is no longer their charm that takes your breath away, but rather their sense of entitlement and lack of empathy. When the illusion has been shattered and you recognize the narcissist in your life for who they are, Disarming The Narcissist will help you figure out what to do next. Communicating with a self-absorbed person is tricky and frustrating, and sometimes intimidating. How do you get them to understand your point of view? Wendy Behary explains to the lay reader that the trick is compassionate, empathetic confrontation. Understanding the narcissist will help you slip past their defenses and communicate with them more
2nd Edition Now Available!
The 2nd edition includes some new and elaborated content:
- Aggressive and Abusive Narcissists—“The Perilous Narcissist”—When it's Time to Exit
- Empathy—Elaborations/Differentiation from Compassion—more on empathic confrontation
- The Female Narcissist—“The “Narcissister”—male vs female narcissism with case vignettes and strategies for dealing with them.